Wizdom at Work
4 Principles of Transformation
By: Dr. Daniel F. Lavanga
On a recent flight back to Philadelphia from Houston, I had the pleasure of meeting a lovely woman named Sarah. In speaking with Sarah, I learned that she travels often in her role as mortgage loan auditor and that she loves, loves to work with numbers. We discussed her assignment in Philadelphia and I gave her a few restaurant suggestions. I explained to her what I do as a corporate change agent, my deep interest in the dynamics of human behavior, and as I tend to do, turned the conversation to her story. You know the drill, “Sarah, what is your story?” She was born in Louisiana, no her family there was not affected by Katrina, although she had lived in Houston for over twenty years.
Her two grown daughters had blessed her with four grandchildren. She bravely left Louisiana with her young girls because her first husband had been abusive and she was determined not to end up like her mother. Her second husband, Leon, was unlike anyone she had ever met. He loved her children and insisted she go to school to pursue a career, so she could become self sufficient. Her eyes then welled up with tears as she told me that he had tragically died three years ago and she still missed him terribly.
By now we had drawn the attention of people around us on the flight and as happens quite often when I fly, I asked Sarah if she would be interested in a method I use in my work that helps people realize that nothing is missing. In effect, I told Sarah that I may be able to show her how Leon was still with her, just in another form. She was quite interested, but smiling skeptically. She agreed saying I was a master at building rapport and she recognized that due to the fact that building rapport with clients is an essential part of her work. So we began and I asked her to describe the traits she missed most about Leon. She cited his kindness, his desire to take care her, his love of travel, as he was a merchant marine, and his guidance of her career. Then I asked her who took over those roles immediately after Lean passed.
She thought for just a moment, a light went off in her eyes as she said her sister had become extremely kind to her since his passing and that was not their history together.
Tears welled up in her eyes as she recounted how her grandson, who was four at the time, came to her at the funeral and said, “Don’t cry grandma, I’ll take care of you.” I asked her when she had begun traveling for work and she shook her head and said, “Right after Leon passed, I told the company that I was willing to travel now.” She well up again when I asked her who was guiding her career now, as she responded that Leon was still there in her head telling her what to do. She praised what she saw as my almost psychic insight, but I explained to her the principles that I employed, and gave her an example that I use in the business world so she could accept this tool and integrate it into her already extremely knowledgeable and aware database.
Principle 1 Conservation: Nothing is missing, just transformed.
Principle 2 Reflection: What you see in others is in you.
Principle 3 Equilibration: Whatever trait you perceive was lost or taken away is right in front of you in another person or persons to the same degree.
Principle 4 The Great Discovery™: You will never have a gain without a loss, a praise with out a reprimand, or be put down without being supported to the same degree simultaneously.
These same principles apply to economics, the housing and stock market, ecology, and even the revolution of the planets. Every cause sets into motion an equal and opposite effect not separated in time, but perfectly synchronic and simultaneous. The challenge for us lies simply in digging deeply enough to see it. The systems and programs employed by Wizdom at Work are tools for using transformational thinking to rise to the new levels in business and life. The skills necessary to “think out of the box” are essential in this world of rapid transformation. We now have a method to assist people in transcending the blocks of the intellect and the emotions allowing an understanding of events in the past, equilibration of the strategies constructed in the present, and an acute predictability of the dynamics of the near and far future in human behavior, business, and global dynamics.
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Dr. Dan Lavanga, is the CEO of Wizdom At Work, a Personal and Professional Management Training Company.
